Idea Of Changing Partner
Do you think that changing partner is a sin? Or do you just think that changing partner is a need when you find out that your current partner is having an affair? Actually in this hyper-competitive world, people tempt to emphasize entertaintment the most. In relationships, people are becoming more open minded as they prefer more then one open relationship. They tempt to change boyfriend or girlfriend many times before marriage takes part. This is because they think that marriage is the grave of love. They want to enjoy more before marrying someone, because they think that after they are married, they cannot have the fun they had when they are young, especially social life. In other words, they are afraid of commitment to the marriage, afraid of divorce and imbalance of the marriage. That is why they tempt to get married at an older age.
People get married. That is the nature of one's life cycle. If the marriage lasts, fine. If the marriage consists betrayal, what will an individual do? If your wife or husband is having an affair while you two already have children, what will you do? Will you suggest a divorce? Or will you just let it be for the sake of your children? Let's discuss about these two possibilities. A divorce. It will only destroy the family that you and your partner have built for so long. Furthermore, it will psychologically affect your children in a negative way. Children will think that they are living under chaos when both parents fight or argue. Some even feel normal about this type of life because they already get used to it for so long. They will become bad-tempered, very emotional and may even face psychological disorders. If a divorce took part, children will have to make up their mind on whether to live with the father or mother for the rest of their life with the grant of law. The decision is very difficult to make as both parents love their children and vice-versa. Sometimes siblings may also be broken up as they go different directions. Divorce has a negative effect to individuals especially chidren. Parents should put their children in the upmost priority as their action can majorly affect children.
As for the other posibility, that is to let it be, one will find that they are living in a life full of fear, dissapointment and soon will also ended up facing emotionally unstabil such as anxiety. In a more serious situation, one may always think that the partner will suggest divorce to him or her although he/she pretend that he/she does not know anything about the affair. This is because they are willing to sacrifice their happiness in order to hinder the affair from the children and to keep their marriage alive. Isn't that the most important thing in a relationship is happiness? Individuals will lose their happiness if they live under a desperate situation such as the above, and one must remember, this is for life.
Eventhough some individuals tried to negotiate with their partner and hopefully persuade he/she to come back to him/her, it never works. After these trials, one can only get out of control emotionally. Love can turn to hate. Jealousy can bring to violence. A husband/wife may try to eliminate the person who has an affair with his/her partner. In the end, only law or miracle can solve this problem.
Unfaithfullness brings to relationships' catastrophe. The one who started an affair is the one to blame. parents should think of their children and family before commiting an act of betrayal to his/her relationship with the husband/wife.
posted by oscar @ 2:30 AM
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